+ What is the Lovely Femme?
This is a guided experience that includes:
- exploring your femme presentation and increasing your sensual confidence through dressing time, makeup application and lessons, boudoir photography and coaching/mentoring
- LGBTIQ+, crossdresser and non-binary welcoming and affirming
- time to explore your femme self individually and/or with your partner/spouse
- body-positive, kink-friendly and encouraging of self-love
- time to celebrate all things femme and have fun!
+ What does a Lovely Femme session NOT include?
This experience DOES NOT INCLUDE:
- a forced feminization or verbal degradation fetish session. I will not force you to do anything nor seek to humiliate you.
- a “method” to becoming one perfect style of femme, as there is no perfect style of femme! We are all beautifully unique.
- time for anyone to be an intolerable or disrespectful diva. Mutual respect is imperative.
- a session in which I make you a woman. I cannot make you any gender or identity. I can only help you explore and guide you into further alignment with yourself. Further, I do not equate femme identity with being a cisgender female.
+ Where are you located?
The Lovely Femme is a traveling boudoir experience. Visit the calendar on the Contact page to see where I'll be next. Depending on the city, I'll utilize a private studio, professional dungeon (for the kinky femmes) or an upscale hotel. All will be discussed prior to your appointment.
+ Who is welcome to session?
The Lovely Femme experience is for LGBTIQ+, crossdressers and non-binary femmes, as well as anyone wanting to genuinely explore their femme self. Individuals, couples and polyamorous partners are welcome. Adults of every body type, ability/disability and ethnicity are welcome.
+ I have a high profile job and require the utmost discretion. How can you assure this?
Your privacy, comfort and trust are taken very seriously. My email utilizes an encrypted platform (ProtonMail - see their site for instructions on how to encrypt your own email). Additionally, I am happy to sign an NDA for your session, should you need one.
For photo shoots, all photo reveals will either be in person or via screen share during a one-on-one video chat. I do not use third party services to share photo files with you (unless you request this) and I do all photo editing myself (I don't hire help for this).
+ How and when will I receive the photos from my boudoir photoshoot?
After your shoot you'll have an in-person reveal (or for clients out of the area, a private reveal via screen share on Google Hangouts). Reveals take place within one week and you'll receive your final finished digital images on a usb drive two weeks after choosing your favorites. If you opt to order any extras, like albums or wall art, your photos will take about another two weeks due to mail order processing.
+ Will you be putting my pictures on the internet?
Only if you've given me written permission will I even consider that. I value your privacy highly and will always respect your right to discretion. If you'd like to let me share your images so that future clients can see the beauty of your photoshoot, I'd love that and we'll talk about about it first. But again, sharing photos is never expected by me.
+ Can you meet me in my city?
Yes, potentially. I am available to travel domestically and internationally. Inquire via the Contact page for rates and availability.
+ Can you help me remove my makeup before I leave?
Yes. I am always prepared with makeup remover if you'd like to leave our appointment bare faced. Shower facilities stocked with soap, shampoo and fresh clean towels are also available to you during your session.
+ Can we do our sessions long distance (phone or online sessions)?
Yes. I offer distance sessions via telephone and video conferencing. View the Sessions page for more details.
+ Can we include my spouse/significant other in our session?
Yes, definitely! I love working with couples! Exploring your femme self with your partner may bring you closer together. If exploring your femme side is proving challenging to you and/or your partner, know that I’ll be compassionate about this and we can take things slowly.
+ What does the term "femme" mean?
Note that "femme" (though a French word meaning "woman") is a term used in many queer and trans communities to denote the intentional outward expression of traditionally feminine attributes and for some, an internal feeling of femininity. It is not a heteronormative concept, obligation or identity.
What is feminine and what is masculine are tricky things to answer, especially when viewed through a non-binary lens. No one is born wearing lipstick, pants, skirts, high heels...though some cultures assign certain types of dress and adornement to certain gender roles.
+ Will you force and humiliate me into being feminine?
No, that is not my style. We will not be compatible if a forced feminization session is your goal.
+ I’m nervous to be seen shopping in public. Can you shop alone and bring the clothes to our session?
Potentially yes, though I will need some information about you up front like your sizes. A prior video chat is also necessary. An additional rate will also be required. Inquire via email.
Keep in mind that shopping together may make your experience more comfortable than shopping alone, so I encourage you to try it if you’re at all interested!
+ Is something wrong with me for wanting to be femme?
No, dear one, there is nothing wrong with you for wanting to be femme. It’s quite common to feel nervousness about becoming more intimate with yourself, so fear not. There is nothing wrong with you for having a femme side, for liking pretty things, for wanting to open up and share them with someone. You are beautiful. I’m going to celebrate your beauty with you and help build up your confidence so you can see your beauty clearly.
You are worthy of knowing happiness, sweetness and joy within your femme self. I promise.